StreSSSSSSSS....workLOAD.....Urggggghhhh.......

Finally the Internet is normal again...

Have been very busy lately....Well I was so dame freaking busy yesterday..dame it!! 3 reports to do..well even thou its not your job to do it since you are only the "kucing kurap" or shall we call it "Buruh kasar" or...bla bla... and yet they simply just dump everything on your tab! f*** I said to myself..ish..macam banyak kali yang outstanding ani ah..its not that I don't finishes the job before I leave my work place..the work keeps coming lo.......errggghhhh... The funny thing is even thou i complain..bising2 dengan my work..i love it because it keeps me busy the whole day.. I actually love chasing datelines...heheh crazy huh??? well wat do u noe... sampai c "boyku" pun marah..well not marah but he commented that with the pay that i received its not worthed.. but sumhow my view is different..even thou the pay is not so good compare to the work load & all the shits that you get... to me its a commitment..you received the job offer & the pay..meaning that you are willing to commit on the job..entah lah ah...i dunno..& i'm not even sure am making any sense here. FYI i brought work wif me lastnight..I have to finish it by today...shooooooooooot...

I miss "boyku" actually...really...funny guy..ada saja topic topic hangat kan d'ceta kan nya..especially kalau ada drama melayu...cali tu..i remembered the last time we went on a trip so he commented on this artist..tau ia yang pandai belakon sama inda. Hehhe...we had fun..I miss going away wif 'boyku".. I love you...& I really really miss yea............it makes me wonder if he misses me too??? hemmm..negative thoughts again..

Stress-Building Beliefs

Perfectionism
Do you feel a constant pressure to achieve?

kindda...
Do you criticize yourself when you're not perfect?

yeah..I tend to re-do it untill its ok..not perfect but ok..
Do you feel you haven't done enough no matter how hard you try?

yes
Do you give up pleasure in order to be the best in everything you do?

emmm...hemm...

Control
Do you have to be perfectly in control at all times?

yes...emm all depends

Do you worry about how you appear to others when you are nervous?

yes
Do you feel that any lack of control is a sign of weakness or failure?

yes
Are you uncomfortable delegating projects to others?

yes

People Pleasing
Does your self-esteem depend on everyone else's opinion of you?

no
Do you sometimes avoid assignments because you're afraid of disappointing your boss?

no
Are you better at caring for others than caring for yourself?

yes...most time..i guess..
Do you keep most negative feelings inside to avoid displeasing others?

yea....

Competence
Do you feel you can never do as good a job as other people?

no lah....
Do you feel your judgment is poor?

not really
Do you feel you lack common sense?

nope
Do you feel like an impostor when told your work is good?

hemm..

Yes answers indicate potential road blocks to a stress-free work life. Challenge these beliefs. Experiment. Try acting in a way that is opposite to your usual behavior. Then, evaluate the results. For example, if you feel overburdened because of a need to control, delegate a task and observe the consequences.
Become aware of how your stress-building beliefs affect your behavior. Replace them with more realistic and less stressful thoughts.

ROMANTIC RULES......

1. Stop Talking about Romance and Get to Work
2. Don't expect your partner to make changes. If you want more romance in your relationship, you have to give it.
3. Make your partner a part of your life. Top priority is ideal.
4. Don't expect romance to just happen, you have to create it.
5. Don't view romance as a chore, consider it a privilege. It's a blessing to have someone in your life to be romantic with.
6. A relationship requires daily attention to keep it alive. If you put in the minimum work, it will be reflected in the degree of happiness and satisfaction you feel in your relationship.
7. Keeping the lines of communication open will keep romance burning bright.
The nice thing about working on a relationship is that it doesn't take both people to start the process. If only one starts the process, the entire dynamics of your relationship will change. In turn, your partner will acquiesce.
This will eliminate "talking" with your partner about fixing things. The best thing is that you'll never have to mention a word because things will naturally change.

Lastly, the best insurance against a failed relationship is to retain the qualities that make it strong. When these qualities are missing, a void is felt by one or both of the partners. When there are voids, people naturally look to have them filled. Commonly, the solution is found through affairs.
Below is a list of qualities that will make your relationship an affair.

Read through the list below and mark the ones that describe how you feel in your relationship with your partner:
1. Feeling desired
2. Feel needed
3. Sexual fulfillment
4. Being understood
5. Close friendship
6. Feel loved
7. Intellectual stimulation
8. Feeling complete
9. Attachment to partner
10. Being listened to

The more qualities you have, the stronger your relationship will be. All of the qualities above are crucial in a relationship. The goal of the list above is to see which qualities are missing.

10 keys to find the LOVE dat u deserve..

* You find your true Lovemate in Love consciousness, not romance consciousness. Romance consciousness is full of yearning, hoping, superficial attraction, games, and waiting. Love consciousness flows with compassion, joy, and healing Love - to everyone. This is "the place" where lovers of Love find each other.

* Love yourself - deeply! Imagine how much less love your Lovemate will receive if you are occupied in not loving yourself. Love, love, love your beautiful self. Your Lovemate from Love is already cherishing you and asking you for this. And you want this for your Lovemate.

* Don't hide your spiritual identity. Discover who you are. Let your magnificence out of hiding. Shine. Radiate. Be all of who you are. If you don't, you may be invisible to the Lovemate of your dreams.

* Let the brilliance of your love shine so brightly that your light creates the place, time, and circumstance that brings you and your Lovemate into synchronicity. Let go of outlining how it should work. Remember: "If you want to make God laugh, tell Her your plans." Love's plans for you are so much bigger! Let Love orchestrate.

* Be the presence of Love as a LoveMaster everywhere you look, talk, walk, and think. Love humanity like you are going to love your Lovemate. Practice & refine your Love skills. Begin loving your future Lovemate now!

* Develop a radiant, powerful, all-inclusive, healing Love practice. All humanity needs your love. Walk through life as the presence of Love, leaving a wake of goodwill, smiles, warmed hearts, and healing. This is the depth of love you want to give to and receive from your Lovemate.

* Keep a Love journal. Write down all the ways you loved others today, and all the ways you were loved. Record your love goals for tomorrow. You will become powerfully conscious of living in Love reality rather than in love blindness.

* Practice powerful Love affirmations that unite you with Love and attract all Love to you. For example: "At this very moment, Love is cherishing me and simultaneously cherishing my Lovemate. We are both being prepared to meet in the highest place of Love and nothing can prevent the inevitable destiny of our meeting and recognizing each other."

* Awaken to your spiritual identity and purpose. Once you align with Soul, magnificent love changes unfold. Feel the immense spiritual presence and support from both of you being on a spiritual path - already partners in spiritual growth. Awake to the larger purpose of your Love union to benefit all around you - even humanity.

* Open your consciousness to Love surprise! Love arrives in our lives like a soft wind that appears out of nowhere - when we open our divine senses to feel the Love breeze. Welcome to the heart of Love!

GOOD LUCK.....................

Merepekz

Happy Holiday.......

Freaking bored...ramai yang holidaying but me am stuck working...Yea man am at work..staring at the computer early morning...well i was suppose to be out there to help with my colleagues..since so many arrival yesterday and check out today is hell!! 76 rooms checking out & the bitch about it ganya 3 staff working at the counter...errgggghhh...they should look at the staff schedule earlier..sewel banar..

I juz cant wait to go back home playing wif si twig. To release the tension might as well play wif her. But today twig have to mandi..hemm..so she won't like me tonight..wat ever..BUT MOMMY LOVE YOU TWIGGI..

Saturday nite I went back to KB jumpa my parents & my bratty sis. God i miss them so much..seriously I do. Amira mengusut kan bali this movie "Nana Tanjung"..well aha Dad..I noe its all ur idea suruh amira to runding me & buy the VCD.. Y i said dat...because during dinner time sudah daddy mentioned about Nana tanjung movie atu Box office movie...yea yea...I like the part where they call each other "Baby...Girl" or "Baby...Boy" part..hehehhe..cali.. Imagine calling ur boyfriend or girlfriend that...hehehh..Then we watch tis movie juz me & d'sis..apa kah namanya...cali jua..so its kindda a movie marathon thingy..I havent spend much time with them lately..GUILTY..sob..sob..sorry y'all..ma'bad..

Sunday there's so many wedding function we attended..plus one makan-makan lagi..talk about freebies..free food the whole day ya..yang classicnya..one of tis wedding ada Malaysian artist..Uji Rashid babe!! Biasalah my mum die hard fan kali ah..heheh..she asked me to take picture of her & Uji..dats ok..then my mum suruh me & Uji lagi begambar..euwwwwwww..how embarrassing..well u think I did ? hemm nooooo......I can imagine if Uji Rashid buat concert sini dijamin laku. I bet my mum mesti ia pigi tu..imagine my mum dressing up back to the 70's..hehehe..I LOVE YOU MOMMY (mati kena cincang habis2 jadi mince beef if mum ever read tis..) hey but my mum was so pretty during her young age not dat am saying she's not now..well she still is pretty..pi pretty orang berumur lah..lain cikit. Apa kan.......or how my cousin Ajip says Atoowah..hehehhe!! Back to my mum lagi. She had her hair kept long and straight..wat do expect it's the "in" thing kali ah zaman atu..pakai dress pendek..ish lawa..slim lagi tu..compare to the other siblings..She's the prettiest among the sisters.. kurus & average height lah..well my mak uda during her younger age..ok lah.. chie pun..hemm no comment..ma'usu..ok lah..well now you noe where we inherit the beauty ..heheheh..Pui!!! Jangan mare ah...

Sama jua tani tu waa..if our children nampak gambar tani during our teens ah..cali jua tu..ever look back at ur old album..heheh..cali2 ah..Zaman BROS..seluar jeans belipat..plus the shoes...yang buckel..not forgetting the rantai BROS lagi..hahahha..then there's tis NKOTB..hahhaha I remember i was constantly drooling over si Donnie Walberg! At that time I like yang mcm naughty & yet sexy type just like c Donnie atu..ish apa kan..LOL. Then there's Vanilla Ice..Colour me bad...Martini..betty boo..,Mc Hammer.. hahah apa hadi.. " Don't touch tis" hahhah DUDES ITS "CANT TOUCH THIS"...My gosh..STOP!!!!! I can go on & on.. non stop refreshing all the goodies..heheh..Remember Seluar MC Hammer..LOL!!! Adakah kamu masih menyimpan nya..hahhaha...roger out!!!! ( sakit parut ketawa....must end tis)

Yea....Yea........

Good evening peeps..yeap am still in the office..boring to the maxx.....so many unfinished business di sini ah...............need to clear up so many things..biasalah even if its not ur job not even listed in your job description but biasa lah the company's moto " RUN THE EXTRA MILES.." yea rite..... banyak2 lah engko punya merepek...heheh..pi masih mampu kan update blog...biasa buang stress cikit...

Juz wanna share wif you guys something...

January
Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored. Fussy. Seldom showsemotions. Takes time to recover when hurt. Sensitive. Down-to-Earth.Stubborn.

February
Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract. Intelligent and clever.Changing personality. Attractive. Sexiest out of everyone.Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest And loyal. Determined toreach goals. Loves freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Lovesaggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt. Gets angry really easilybut does not show it. Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friendsbut rarely shows it. Horny. Daring and stubborn. Ambitious. Realizingdreams and hopes. Sharp. Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic onthe inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous. Spendthrift. Triesto learn to show emotions.

March
Attractive personality. Sexy. Affectionate Shy and reserved. Secretive.Naturally honest, generous and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity.Sensitive to others. Great kisser. Easily angered. Trustworthy.Appreciative and returns kindness. Hardly shows emotions. Tends tobottle up feelings. Observant and assesses others.

April
Suave and compromising. Funny and humorous. Stubborn. Very talkative.Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal.Does work well with others. Very confidant. Sensitive. PositiveAttitude. Thinking generous. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable.Loves to look for information. Able to cheer everyone up and/or makethem laugh. Able to motivate oneself and others. Understanding. Fun tobe around. Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive. Boy/girlcrazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and traveling. Systematic. Hot buthas brains.

May
Stubborn and hard-hearted. Strong-willed and highly motivated. Sharpthoughts. Easily angered. Attracts others and loves attention. Deepfeelings. Beautiful physically and mentally. Firm Standpoint. Needs nomotivation. Shy towards opposite sex. Easily consoled. Systematic (leftbrain). Loves to dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding. Sicknessusually in the ear and neck. Good imagination. Good physical. Weakbreathing. Loves literature and the arts. Loves traveling. Dislike beingat home. Restless. Not having many children. Hardworking.High-spirited.

June
You've got the best personality and are an absolute pleasure to bearound. You love to make new friends and be outgoing. You are a greatflirt and more than likely have an a very attractive partner. a wickedhottie. It is also more than likely that you have a massive recordcollection. You have a great choice in films, and may one day become afamous actor/actress yourself - heck, you've got the looks for it!!!

July
Fun to be with. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to be understood.Quiet unless excited or tensed. Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation.Easily consoled. Honest. Concerned about people's feelings. Tactful.Friendly. Approachable. Emotional temperamental and unpredictable.Moody and easily hurt. Witty and sparkly. spazzy at times. Notrevengeful. Forgiving but never forgets. dislikes nonsensical andunnecessary things. Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive andforms impressions carefully. Caring and loving. Treats others equally.Strong sense of sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people throughobservations. Hardworking. No difficulties in studying. Loves to bealone. Always broods about the past and the old friends. Waits forfriends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive unless provoked. Lovesto be loved. Easily hurt but takes long to recover.

August
Outgoing personality. takes risks. feeds on attention. No self-control.Kind hearted. Self-confident. Loud and boisterous. VERY revengeful. Easyto get along with and talk to. Has an "every thing's peachy" attitude.Likes talking and singing. Loves music. Daydreamer. Easily distracted.Hates not being trusted. BIG imagination. Loves to be loved. Hatesstudying. in need of "that someone". Longs for freedom. Rebellious whenwithheld or restricted. Lives by "no pain no gain" caring. Always asuspect. Playful. Mysterious. "charming" or "beautiful" to everyone.stubborn. curious. Independent. Strong willed. A fighter.

September
Active and dynamic. Decisive and haste but tends to regret. Attractiveand affectionate to oneself. Strong mentality. Loves attention.Diplomatic. Consoling, friendly and solves people's problems. Brave andfearless. Adventurous. Loving and caring. Suave and generous. Usuallyyou have many friends. Enjoys to make love. Emotional. Stubborn.Hasty. Good memory. Moving, motivates oneself and others. Loves totravel and explore. Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover canunderstand.

October
Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves to takes things at thecenter. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn't pretend. Gets angryoften. Treats friends importantly. Brave and fearless. Always makingfriends. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Doesnot care to control emotions. Unpredictable. Extremely smart, butdefinitely the hottest AND sexiest of them all.

November
Trustworthy and loyal. Very passionate and dangerous. Wild at times.Knows how to have fun. Sexy and mysterious. Everyone is drawn towardsyour inner and outer beauty and independent personality. Playful, butsecretive. Very emotional and temperamental sometimes. Meets new peopleeasily and very social in a group. Fearless and independent. Can holdtheir own. Stands out in a crowd. Essentially very smart. Usually, thegreatest men are born in this month. If you ever begin a relationshipwith someone from this month, hold on to them because their one of akind.

December
This straight-up means you are the most good-looking personpossible...Better than all of these other months! Loyal and generous.Patriotic. Competitive in everything. Active in games and interactions.Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Influential in organizations. Fun to bewith. Easy to talk to, though hard to understand. Thinks far withvision, yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by kindness. Politeand soft-spoken. Having lots of ideas. Sensitive. Active mind.Hesitating tends to delay. Choosy and always wants the best.Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to joke. Good debating skills.Has that someone always on his/her mind. Talkative. Daydreamer.Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Abiding. Able to show character.One guy/girl kind of person. Loveable. Easily hurt. Prone to gettingcolds. Loves music. Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored.Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to recover when hurt.Sensitive.

Oh Happy Day

Happy 31st Anniversary Mommy & Daddy...........

So many events happening this December.. after my parents anniversary then it'll be my Grand mama's Birthday...New Year Lagi...lapas Hari Raya Aidil Adha..

I envy durang my parents.. we are so dame lucky to have both of them as our parents. We noe we can be bratty at times..huh..well corrections.....heheh most of the time..........but mommy we noe what we're doing..we noe we've made you cry most of the time dengan perangai kami sorang sorang..MOMMY WE ARE SORRY...WE LOVE YOU.. Daddy we noe its not easy to raise 3 daughters and a son..we are so sorry if we never listen to any of your advice..but as what you always say " Learn from your mistakes & avoid repeating it". WE LOVE YOU DADDY..

Mom and Dad,

I may no longer be that little child who always Wanted another hug or minute with you

But I still miss you when we are apart

I may no longer need your hand for every step I take

But I still need your acceptance and support of everything I do.

I may not be that little child who asked For all the things I ever wanted in the world

But that's because long ago you taught me How to go after my dreams.

I may no longer be that little child who Looked to you to share every hurt, smile and tear

but I still feel like that child whenever I think of you ... I'll always love you, Mom and Dad, With the heart of that little child

Grown to love you only more.

BIRTHDAY DAY...

IT"S MY SIS BIRTHDAY TODAY!!! Yea.........................

" Appy appy appy..appy birrthday girrl..birrrthday girl" (must sing it in a french accent)

No i dun think I wanna mentioned the age knowing we women are very particular when it comes to mentioning the age..WE FREAK OUT.. unlike male..kenapa ah? I realize some man aged beautifully..during younger age nda plang brapa hengsem kan but sudah tua "cikit" heheh..makin hengsem...bisai..

SAGGITARIUS

The Bright Side
Sagittarians have an open-minded and intellectual curiosity which means that they are willing to learn about other people in an effort to understand them, and to be trusting and open with them in return. Sagittarians say exactly what they mean with devastating frankness.
Sagittarius is an optimistic, out-going and adaptable Fire sign. Sagittarian personalities seek to interact spontaneously with life as they go on their great quest for meaning. Sagittarians also need a great deal of freedom and are equally willing to offer that freedom to others.

The Dark Side
Tactlessness, boastfulness and thinking with one's mouth are Sagittarian faults which tend to upset other people. And so, too does a Sagittarian tendency to moralize and 'preach' what other people should do - without of course following the rules themselves.

Loyalties
One of the great Sagittarian difficulties lies in relationships. They find it extremely easy to be entirely faithful to two people at once. And bored Sagittarians are a danger to themselves and others. Anything goes, is their attitude, so long as it is found to be stimulating. This tendency to over-indulge can lead them to burn the candle at both ends and health may suffer

Chinese astrology

You were born in a Year of the Fire Dragon!

The powerful Dragon is the physically healthy, sentimental visionary of the Chinese zodiac. Outspoken, lucky and financially fortunate, Dragons show boundless energy and vitality. These proud souls do not like to be challenged, and their nature is that of "unpredictability." Egotistic, and always high-profile, Dragons are assertive, boisterous, and extroverted personalities. Successful and popular, this 5th sign of the zodiac produces excellent actors and performers, and are born to be in the public eye. Lucky, original, enthusiastic, and healthy, the ardent Dragon needs a strong and intriguing partner, or else they may opt to live a solitary life.

My Cat Twwigi

Good Morning... Rise & shine..

Yeap..I'm all freshen up.. My sleep was totally awesome..

Finally I have a cat name Twiggi..still a baby but so cute. I'll be looking forward to come home because of baby twwigi. I know to some people thinks its ridiculous to treat a cat like a human being.. twwigi is not just a cat..twwigi is living creature with feelings as well..

I went to a fren house lastnight..persian cat nya yang satu atu lawa to the maxx.....exactly macam Garfield..flat face...belabih very manja & playfull..i feel like kidnapping the cat but bida jua kan if you'll find me on the front page making headlines " WANTED! CAT KIDNAPPER" LOL..

Anyway am so happy having twiggi around makes me want to go home to her the sooneeest.........hehe... MOMMY LOVE U TWIGGI...

MONDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy holiday everybody................

It's Monday....god i juz hate waking up with dizzy spells....I only manage to get 2 hours of sleep...dame those drinks...I seriously wanted to put on my shades to work..trying to conceal those eye bags...the coffee didnt help...i wanted to throw up..god my stomach was not settle...trying hard to get my self all sober for the HODs meeting this morning...dragging dragging...i was totally numb and trying hard to listen to all the comments and issues being brought up for today's meeting..nothing make senses..heheheh...bengengz to the maxxxx beb...

Today am putting on my tudung to work..heheh..SHOCKING...hehe..everybody was asking me y..wats wif me today & the tudung..even GM was quiet surprise to see me this morning...well "ada rahsia di sebalik tudung" heheheh......................

Saturday nite I was @ home..YA AT HOME!!..After netball I went straight home..well i would've just join my frens lepaking but I was not really in the mood..so i dozed off early...

Sunday..woke up late..was i really tired...hemm..oklah...nothing much happening during the day time..but malam HAPPENING...Oooooo.....Waaaaaaaaaahhhh........

Saja saja meluah kan perasaan yang nda seberapa hari ani...no worries tomorrow I'll be good as new..(?)..

Why does it hurt so bad.............

"You’re better off without him.” “He’s a real heartbreaker.”

When you lose a close friend or love relationship, you are likely to feel great sorrow and heartache. But even in the end of a bad relationship, there can be deep pain and grief. There might be the sense of failure, hopelessness, loss, despair, fear, or desperation.

Everyone has a different way of handling the heartache of a breakup. Healing after the loss of love may happen—and usually does in time—but usually not by seeking it. A painful breakup offers an opportunity for you to heal this and other wounds, becoming stronger and healthier in the midst of your suffering. However, not everyone makes use of this opportunity for self-transformation, but instead may carry painful baggage into the next relationship, or simply retreat from relationships altogether. What matters in the healing process is your ability to make sense of what has happened to you.

Admittedly, some breakups are easier than others. You only took her out on a few dates, perhaps. Maybe he wasn’t really your type and you knew it. But then there are the splits that bring excruciating heartache:
* you got dumped on your birthday
* your partner cheated on you with your best friend

Whatever the story behind the end of the relationship, as the once-popular song says, “Breaking up is hard to do.” Even when the relationship has gone sour, and even for the person initiating the breakup, the loss is often still a tangible and painful experience...sob...sob...

If you are coping with a break up, it is normal to experience negative feelings such as:
- Hatred,
- Jealousy
- Anger
- Rage and the need for revenge,
-Depression,
-Loathing or hating yourself ,
- Feeling inadequate or incapable of holding a relationship,
- Feeling guilty for not having tried harder.
- Helplessness.
- Loneliness.
- Shamefulness or loss of face.
- Feeling unable to survive or live without your ex- break up partner.
- Feeling Suicidal or even worse.

Such negative feelings and self talk, if left unchecked will keep on multiplying and gaining momentum until like a tornado... they take over your mind, suck your energy, burn the living daylights out of you, consume you totally and really leave you drained out and incapable of living a happy, healthy life ever again. In effect your breakup has taken over your mind and your life.
You absolutely need to dissolve and dissipate such negative thoughts and feelings immediately.

The trouble for many people after their breakup or divorce is that this pain can be so unbearable that without realizing it, they unknowingly do some things that are counter-productive to healing their pain. They actually stay stuck in that pain, sometimes forever.
Sometimes, even when you think that you have dealt with the pain of the breakup or divorce and put your past relationship behind you, there's still more healing work to be done. You just didn't realize it.
Sometimes, you'll hear a song on the radio or one might pop into your head that reminds you of a certain time and person that you were with.
Other times, someone will say or do something that reminds you of a past relationship and you realize that even though days, weeks, months or even years may have passed, there's still more healing to be done.

we all know people who've experienced a relationship break up or divorce and many months or years later, they are still angry, bitter and holding onto the pain of that past relationship.
If you ever hope to heal your heart and find the courage to truly open yourself up to love again, you're going to have to do some things besides simply letting time pass.

OUT OF LOVE ?????..............

Hey peeps....It's friday.....yang penting nya..ramai yang holidaying masa ani...CRAP!!! Imagine yang keraja nda dapat cuti...sob...sob....

Is there such things as loveless relationship?? Can you imagine being with sumone you dun love?? hemm..even if you've known this person for so long. Somehow there's just this thingy..just because that you're best friends (am talking about with the opposite sex ya...) but it doesnt always work when you two become lovers..worst till married to eachother.. Why do we see some relationship ends up with a happy marriage and some don't? What is it that we are lacking off?? communication?? Sex??? Affection?? others???? bla...bla...bla.. I have a fren~ we just name her Y* lah...she was out with this guy from highschool..then college..i think they went out for 9 years before they decides to get married.. Before the marriage, you can see them always together..so loving to the max....Totally glued to each other...I was so jelous seeing the two love birds..biasa lah me at that time not to say i was anti-social...but during my school days I dun care about having boyfriend..I juz wanna have fun...happy2 saja...( back to the story ya...before i grumble on sumthing else)..when the lovebirds got married we were dame happy for both of them..we tot it'll be everlasting...pi mana everlasting.....they were divorce less than a year after the marriage...mannnn......9 freaking years..if they were married for all those year 2 or 3 kids sudah tu..ada yang super duper express & yang super duper active..8 kids & 1 in the making tu...heheh...i was dumbstruck with the answer from c Y*..they both fall out of love..WHaaaaaaaaaaaaat????? Well they knew it earlier on sudah..but because they dun wanna hurt each other's feeling...by confronting and telling the truth so they decide to pursue the marriage...ish....cana kan tu...they could ave said it earlier kan..without being bitter to each other...ani even being in the same room pun nda dpt..mesti tah pasang muka Evvvillllllllll (mcm ceta austin power Dr. Evvvil..) mata pun mcm kan membunuh..muka brutal to the maxxxx.........worst still even to talk decently to each other pun susah..mesti tah cara becakap macam org becakap dengan org tuli...voice volume blasting tu eh....apa kannnnnn........so what do we learn from all this??? The least we could do is make sum changes if we want to be happy with our partner...we can always give & take..but jgn giving saja...orelse mun sudah nda tahan2...decent communication please...jgntah tah volume atu full blast kali ah...if its meant to be ,its meant to be..if nda pun..shit happens..

What's with the heart break...

The loss of a relationship and getting over a breakup is always a very difficult situation to deal with, especially when you have committed your heart in it's entirety and given what you have considered to be all that you were capable of giving in an effort to salvage the relationship when things were going wrong. If you were able to remain true to yourself, and to your partner, regardless of what you received in return, then you can take comfort in the fact that your love remained steadfast in the face of adversity. Often we find that our love was taken, but love was not returned, honesty is returned with unfaithfulness and deceit, compliments with criticisms, caring with disconcern and your giving with selfishness. If, through all of that, the truest test of love, we remained faithful, then the knowledge that our love was unconditional is our reward. The loss of a relationship such as this is to be considered as the gift of freedom, and not as a loss.

*It's your job to educate your partner about how to treat you so you feel loved.

*Communication doesn't mean talking. It means sharing.

*Infidelity is the surest way to destroy a relationship.

*Generosity is rarely about money or things. It's mostly about heart.

*Until you resolve your past, you are not free to have a future.

*What people do to you is rarely about you and is almost always about their unresolved past. Don't take it personally.

*Until you realize that a great relationship is created by who you are, you won't have one.

*Until you love yourself enough to take care of your needs, no one else will.

*If you feel empty, a relationship will most likely make you feel even emptier.

*Compassion for your partner goes a long way in getting what you want.

*Sexual intimacy has very little to do with attractiveness and everything to do with emotional intimacy and trust.

*Women rarely appreciate money and assistance as a substitute for emotional intimacy.

*If your partner continuously says, "There is nothing wrong with me. Our problems are all your fault," get help.

*This is not a dress rehearsal - this is your life and your relationships in progress. Start creating your life the way you want it to be today.

*You are not your parents. There is no reason your relationship or life should look like theirs.

*It's much easier to be yourself than to be what you think others want you to be.

*Even when someone loves you more than life itself, they will still look out for their interests first.*

Being a people-pleaser is not an effective way to create good relationships. It is an effective way to get taken advantage of.

*If you always take care of someone, you take away their power. They will resent you for it.

*Supporting men financially takes away their self esteem. Give them moral support instead.

*The best relationships are partnerships.

*If you get to be right most of the time and make your partner take all of the blame, you will end up alone.

*A relationship with a foundation of dishonesty is like a house of cards.

*Grass only looks greener on the other side.

*You may secretly wonder if there isn't a better partner out there. This is your mind's way of communicating that you are dangerously close to real intimacy with your current partner.

*If your partner says he is willing to grow and change, don't test him. Support him in his commitment.

*Emotional maturity is knowing when you are overreacting. Stop and take care of your needs so you can get back in balance.

*What you think you want is often not what you really want, but rather a sideways plot to get your needs met. If you ask, very often you will receive.

*Communication means two-way understanding, not one-way accusing.

"Love has nothing to do with what you expect to get, it's what you are expected to give...which is everything".

Apa la.............

Can't believe its already Thursday ah....whaaaaaaaaa..... another 2 more weeks it'll be New Year... sudah buat New Year's resolutions?? hahahahha crap!!!!!!!!!! i dunno about u guys but seriously even if you have 10 pages of next year's resolution..i think 2 -3 may be accomplish..the rest??? may ditch it sumwhere LOL!!

I remember my past resolutions was to give up smoking...banar...I managed to quit for 2 months..atu pun bcoz..we went off for Hajj..jadi bida jua tu ah kan cgup dsana...but surprisingly some of the jema'ah Indonesian & Indian do smoke ... i saw them smoking tyme d mina...and there's one tyme jema'ah from India or Pakistan..kena marah sal ia bawa cgup k masjid..so guard pompuan ni tarus marah cakap "harem..harem..ya Siti Rahmah" buleh this jema'ah buat muka seposen...buat duh saja ia...hehe...

Dunno about this year..What do I want to accomplish next year...?? Let it be lah..I'll be 20++ next year...yikes...eeeee..takut nya...Tua dah ni..HuaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAh........

I'm planning to go off sumwhere to celebrate my birthday..maybe Bangkok..syok kah kan celebrate disana?? Or maybe go to KL (?) or London (?) for a week....syok tu...maybe sumwhere romantic with sumone special...Nda jua syok if you were to go all by ourself and celebrate your birthday sendiri...entah ah..

Pi why guys nda peduli wen it comes to Birthday,wedding anniversary...or anything yang special lah...slalunya pompuan yang ber ia2 sangat kan this things..some commented ah " Its just a Birthday..nothing special... the day that your mum give birth to you.." bosan lah dgr catu...

Why can't they be romantic cikit2 pun jadi lah... maybe antar bunga kah...some men comment " Apa plang bunga?? Nda jua dapat makan tu...plus mahal lagi" errrrrrrrrgggghh...well ok..maybe chocolate "PATCHI".. definitely some men will comment " Huh??? mahal jua... 100gm sudah brapa tu..n plus karang u gemuk sayang..u jua jaga badan.." LOL...ada saja kan laki2 ani.. so what exactly can they do during our birthday..other then giving +++ for you...at least some do make an effort to celebrate the gf's birthday lah...inda semua plang...

I just wish something special will happen during my birthday...

ZZZzzzzzzzzz

Come on, it's no secret; just about every woman loves it when her man finishes doing his thingy only to flip her around and hug her in the spoon position. That's the goldmine of affectionate actions.
Flipping her around isn't even necessary, but chances are that some kind of bodily touching may be. Why? Well, because sharing in a very sacred experience with a woman likely leaves her feeling vulnerable. And something as small as wrapping your arm around her can make all the difference.

But you're tired: If you're about to crash out for a couple of hours because you simply can't keep your eyes open, wrap your arms around her, say something like, "you wore me out, babe" and nap away.

Although many guys aren't big fans of the "cuddle," there are even less men around who want to talk once the deed is over. But if she wants to talk, you may have to keep your ears open and listen up.
Chances are that she will likely talk about what went down -- especially if you had her yelling out like a banshee. And I'm quite sure that your "strokable" ego will overtake your need for some shuteye when it comes to such a topic anyway.

But you're tired: If you want to take a nap at this point, you won't be able to doze off completely as she might be insulted if you start snoring when she's in the middle of describing her second orgasm. Instead, ask open-ended questions so she'll take longer to answer, giving you time to relax. As well, do your best to keep her talking about what you did that was so great, that way, you'll want to stay awake.

But if you're older and more comfortable in your relationship, chances are that you may not be as easily aroused for round two (huaaaahaaaaahaaaa), and, of course, that isn't your fault. Add that to the fact that you probably did all the work and it's quite possible that your little man won't be good to go right away.

It's a well-known fact that after a man ejaculates, he feels like sleeping, because upon orgasm, humans release the hormone oxytocin, which normally makes us sleepy. Then again, perhaps if you didn't hold your breath when you reached orgasm, you'd be able to stay awake (that's one theory anyway).

The bottom line is that, whether you're with your wife or a girlfriend, a gentleman always makes an effort to ensure that the woman lying next to him feels secure after sex. I know you want to sleep, but just do your best to let her know that it's nothing personal.

I LUV U.....AGAIN????

Have you ever wondered why it is so instinctively difficult to say "I love you"? There's a reason for this hesitation, and it's called your male instinct .

There aren't many men who realize or appreciate the power of saying "I love you." These three magic words can save your relationship when it hits rock bottom, or can even get you out of trouble when she finds out about Janette (your mistress).
The secret to keeping I love you powerful and meaningful, is to keep it scarce by rarely using it. If you're able to exercise control and refrain from abusing the use of I love you , it will be like having an ace in your pocket for when you really need the winning upper hand.
I have learned that "I love you" really means "I choose to act lovingly towards you." In that sense, showing her that you love her through actions is enough. You don't have to say "I love you" just to prove it; your woman should be able to see your feelings through your actions.
Yet women still want to hear you say "I love you" because by saying those three magic words, you're acknowledging an attachment to her and dependent need for her. You'll also be losing valuable points in the Challenge game. You see, not saying "I love you" only adds to the challenge and makes you more desirable to women.
You have to be strong and resist saying those three little words. Don't worry about scaring her away; you'll be fine, as long as you show your love through your actions. But save the "I love you" for a rainy day.

So what did you learn?

It's okay to say it when you really mean it, but not as a precursor to every word out of your mouth. As with everything, you must find a balance.

Get it on!

Hot Lover... OLDER OR YOUNGER?????

IN recent months, there has been much hullabaloo about the virtues of women dating and marrying younger men. Terry McMillan's popular book and the subsequent movie, How Stella Got Her Groove Back, have inspired women around the globe to seek out and openly praise the positives of younger men.
Yet, a persistent chorus can be heard from in-the-know females who assert what we all have assumed or known for decades, even centuries: The older man has many desirable qualities that should not be overlooked by today's woman.
Some always preferred older men...why???...Older men make you feel special; they give you everything you need. They give you so much attention (??), and they make you feel wanted and needed. Older men give you respect. They make you feel like a queen..(??)

Many women agree. And while the older woman-younger man relationship is a controversial, relatively modern phenomenon, the younger woman-older man union is and long has been more of the norm as far as romantic matches go. To some, it is what is expected. To many, it is not at all unusual.

Through the centuries it has not been uncommon for women to marry men old enough to be their fathers.Men prided themselves in getting the youngest, purest-looking women they could find; it was a symbol of prestige and power and manhood. In addition, society traditionally dictates that men should be the providers, the leaders, the heads of the household.
These days, as they have done throughout the centuries, women are realizing or rediscovering that when it comes to men, older can be better, and it often is just that. Many women dismiss the advances made by younger men because they feel that youthful pursuers don't have as much to offer as their older counterparts.

Some frenz disagree of having someone younger because they want somebody who is already mature, who knows who he is and what he wants. A lot of younger men expect the older woman to take care of them, and they are not going to do that.

Women give numerous reasons why they prefer older men. One reason cemented in time and tradition is that women usually prefer men who are financially stable, and in most cases the most financially secure men are those who are older men who are established. In past times when a teenage girl married an older man, it was somewhat influenced by the fact he already had establish himself in a business or profession--or he had built up his farming business--and he was in a much better position to take care of his wife than men her own age.

One frenz dating a man 15 years her senior and they have a "wonderful" relationship. she said they have a lot to talk about and don't even consider him `ok!. ' they have loads of fun and the sex is great..

Fat Women?? Skinny Women?? hemm...

I've asked hundreds upon hundreds of guys what kind of body type they like on a woman and although none of them were shouting out Rosie O'Donnell and Aretha Franklin's names, they weren't screaming for little Miss Ally McBeal either.
All men like breasts (hello Pammy!) and all men like buns; I think Jennifer Lopez proved that one hands down (or around, whatever you prefer). Needless to say, although big flabby bellies and cellulite didn't make the hit list, meat on a woman is thought to be attractive by virtually all men.

One particular guy, who I'll call AMEO, made an interesting point: "I like fit women. Skinny? Anyone can be skinny, but how many women can claim that they're fit? There's nothing more unattractive than a thin woman with no muscle tone. If that's the case, I'd prefer a more voluptuous woman, milky if you will."

So what do all you guys want? Well, if men were all the same, that would be quite an easy question to answer. But, we're all different and so all men have differing desires when it comes to the abundance of women that come in all shapes and sizes.
Whereas some guys prefer petite women and all the tiny things that come with them, other guys admitted that they love bigger women simply because they seem "more comfortable with themselves."

But one thing that just about all these guys agreed on is that they don't like those lollipop-looking women. You know, those caricatures with big heads that stand out from the rest of the body. It just doesn't look healthy or attractive.

Although the mainstream media usually sexualizes the fit and thin, there are plenty of big boned women out there who are the object of many a man's adoration. Anna Nicole, Camryn Manheim and even Oprah are heavily adored by men worldwide. Does their size hinder them from being sexual? No. Is it possible that guys only adore them because they're loaded? Maybe.

But we have to come to terms with what's happening around us. The media might be throwing skinny women in our faces all the time, but we are the ones who perpetuate the problem by letting them.

There was a time when voluptuousness was embraced wholeheartedly, like in the days of seductress Marilyn Monroe. In those days, the perfect woman's measurements were 36-26-36, like a curvy hourglass.
Nowadays, the ideal shape of a woman is 34-24-34, down by two inches, and with breast enhancements to boot, women can get as skinny as they want and retain their ample bosoms (or rather, the surgeon's ample bosoms).

Obviously, no one likes a glutton; after all, it is one of the seven deadly sins. But a healthy girl who exercises and takes care of herself is quite desirable for all men. Being a size 6 isn't really that important to most guys, it's only when women start out as a size 6 and end up as a size 14 that we become somewhat antsy.
Men do look at models and actresses with lustful thoughts, but in reality, lust and long-term relationships don't usually go hand in hand.

Maybe it's just me..

Oh, that sweet feeling of falling in love! That dizzying magical enchanted feeling – that all is right with the world, and certainly with you, swept off your feet as you are.

Then of course, reality sets in. He snores, leaves his clothes on the floor of the closet, and wet towels – well, that too. He comes tired and beat, and spends the weekend asleep on the couch or buried in work. You feel abandoned, neglected, and although you love him, you hardly feel in love.

You’ve had conversations, you know, the “We need to talk” type, where he gets this look like “Now what have I done,” and you’ve told him you feel neglected, abandoned, and that he needs to do something to put the romance back in your life. He manages flowers for a week or two, and then it’s back to same-o, same-o.

You sigh. “Oh, well, I guess this is life,” and resign yourself to a life of half-baked love. Which is such a shame, because you could have that full rich wonderful being in love – if you would just remember that love is an action, not just a feeling.

Love is a doing. To love is an active verb. Too often we treat love as something that befalls us, instead of something we nurture, grow and develop. It’s by taking the actions of love that you grow the feeling of love.

When, for example, was the last time you greeted your mate at the door after his or her day with a big smile, loving arms, and a “Hey, it’s so great to see you. What can I do for you? How can I help you relax?” When was the last time you left your partner a note in his or her wallet that says “You are more precious to me than all the gold in the world,” or an emails that says, “Hi, my love!”

Love is an action, and it is by doing the actions of love, those gestures and behaviors that say “You are valuable to me, your well-being, your happiness, matter to me,” louder than any words could, that you nurture the feelings of love.

Love is a dynamic: as you give freely of your appreciation of your partner, you open yourself to receiving love and appreciation in return. Your sweetheart can look at you with new eyes, for you are no longer trying to get from him, you are unreservedly giving to him. Oddly enough, the most powerful way to receive love is to give it.

So give generously, joyously, fully of those wonderful actions of love – and rejoice in the sweet feeling of “in love” that stirs your soul again and again.


"Women need ATTENTION and LOVE... Women need SECURITY, need LOVE, need ATTENTION, need to be PAMPERED"

21 Reasons for why I Love You

1.I can be myself when I am with you.

2.Your idea of romance is dim lights, soft music, and just the two of us.

3.Because you make me feel like I have never felt before.

4.I can tell you anything, and you won't be shocked.

5.Your undying faith is what keeps the flame out of love alive.

6.You and me together, we can make magic.

7.We're a perfect match.

8.Thinking of you, fills me with a wonderful feeling.

9.Your love gives me the feeling, that the best is still ahead.

10.You never give up on me, and that's what keeps me going.

11.You are simply irresistible.

12.I love you because you bring the best out of me.

13.Your terrific sense of humor.

14.Every time I look at you, my heart misses a beat.

15.You're the one who holds the key to my heart.

16.You always say what I need to hear (You are perfect).

17.You have taught me the true meaning of love.

18.Love is, what you mean to me - and you mean everything.

19.You are my theme for a dream.

20.I have had the time of my life and I owe it all to you.

21.And, of course, your intelligence, 'cause you were smart enough to fall in love with me ;-)

IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE

If you love someone because you think that he or she is really gorgeous....
then it's not love...it's "infatuation"...

If you love someone because you think that you shouldn't leave him because others think that you shouldn't
then it's not love...it's "compromise"...

If you love someone because you think that you cannot live without his touch
then it's not love...it's "lust"...

If you love someone because you have kissed by him...
then it's not love..it's "inferiority complex"....

If you have someone because you cannot leave him thinking that it would hurt his feelings..
then it's not love...it's "charity"...

If you love someone because you share everything with him..
then it's not love...it's "friendship"...

but if you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stable and you cry for him...that's "love"...

If you get attracted to the people but stay with him without regrets...
that's "love"...

If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn't want to...
that's "LOVE"....

Just another day.......

Morning..........feeling all fresh this morning..had a hot date with c busuk & paluk..last nite..Kira awal lah tidur.. I was suppose to meet up wif c Zainol... after work..minum petang arah durang punya fav. hang out "Mamih" pi I was so tired to go & also go bowling dengan my frenz smalam... All the problems that I'm having is wearing me out.. I decide to be a good girl, home alone..AGAIN... I was in need for sumone to talk too but there was no one I want available,, I tido saja lah....It makes me wonder if adults still sleep with their "bantal busuk"? Ada kah?? Is it wrong to have "bantal busuk"? Like mine..this bantal was special made by my grand-ma when i was a toddler kali...i technically grew up with the bantal..it just have to sleep with it orelse..entah ah..nda nyaman..walaupun belayar..sum hotel atu pillow nya feathers kan..cozy but nothing compare to c busuk ani ah...currently my busuk ani macam in a very bad shape..I actually ask my mum to fixed it...but unfortunately ia inda mau...toxic sangat kah bantal ani... as what my lil' sis refer to bantal nya "bantal Harum"..ya..so both my sis, bro & me have our fav. bantal..ahaah.. but we dun name it... Ada jua yang membagi nama for their bantal busuk atu ...heheheh... well i was actually eyeing on one particular bantal yang di rumah KB...so adek..you better be prepared when one of the bantal will be missing SOOOONNNNNN................Huaaaaaaaaahhhaaaa.... (d'evil laughter mcm pheebs @ friends)Dun you just wish for something special to happen...like something that can cheer you up...maybe your bf/gf surprise you by coming to your office..then they send a bouquet of roses or boxes not 1 box but many boxes hehehehhe... of Patchi's chocolates...or maybe just a quiet dinner..sumwhere or weekend together.....I can just go on & on wif the lists...bla bla bla.....nda apa jgn kurang berangan..nda pun kena buat catu....but at least pasangan angan2 pagi pagi ani...it cheers me up abit... I just dunno whats happening...I miss my chipsmore and I dunno if he misses me too...I dun noe what's going on... where the relationship is going...maybe its still on or maybe its off..not officially off but ????? Lets just give a week..if nothing good is happening...so I noe it'll be officially off...ya...

Just wanting to share with u peeps. Issues that i read from sumone ...about affairs

"why a man would do it...The sex, variety maybe, the excitement, and especially the idea that you can do it and still get on with your own life (meaning still be with the wife and kids). Its actually great for the man. It might even be good for HIS (current) marriage and the relationship with his wife and kids. Great sex outside and then go home to a calming home environment. (Its great, as long as they don’t fall in love with their lover). A woman entering an affair with a married man is definitely going to suffer, more much more than the man. Its not going to be good for her i dont think. A man can have sex with his lover and then go home and have sex again that night with his wife. He can! I don’t think a woman can do that can they? . "

??????? Is it true???

JUST U.........

if you tame me

and i tame you,

you will not lose

your wild

and wonderful,

your freedom

or the air

you breathe,

not lost

but found,

once tamed

and joined

together

silently

you will

find me,

and i will

at last have

found

you